Meditation as solo therapy — grounding reactivity and inner dialogue through daily practice
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· practiced since 1998
Attention trainingLoving-kindness (Metta)Inner dialogue observationEmotional regulationSolo therapeutic practice
🧠 Mind
About
Meditation is a Mind Stage 1 practice — its primary work is to ground: to place steady attention on what is actually happening in the mind, without the usual reflex of arguing with it, escaping it, or performing a better version of it. The technique is simple: sit, follow the breath, notice what arises, return. What it trains is the interval between stimulus and response. Over months and years that interval widens — almost imperceptibly — until it becomes the difference between reacting and choosing.
What convinced me this was working had nothing to do with the cushion. Driving tired, on the edge of being dangerous, something shifted: instead of pushing through, the move was to name it simply — I'm tired, let's be more present — and respond with gentleness rather than force. The risk dropped. When my son pointed out my inattention, I didn't flare. The practice had arrived in the car, without announcement.
The particular branch practised here combines mindfulness (bare attention — noticing what arises without following it) with loving-kindness (aspiration phrases directed inward, toward others, toward difficulty). The two traditions reinforce each other: mindfulness reveals what is here; loving-kindness changes the relationship to it. Together they dissolve the myth that meditation is a switch to light. It is a pause where shadow and light can both be felt, unresolved — and that is precisely its therapeutic effect.
✦ My Experience
A mantra arrived without being called — I had not planned it and had not heard it beforeSitting straight and relaxed at the same time — first time the body felt like it belonged on the cushionA blockage in the sternum, met with breath the same way a spinal knot is met on the matTired and about to flare — and the first move was kindness instead of defenseThe inner prosecutor became something I could watch, not something I had to defeat
Guide Notes
What I had to unlearn
That meditation produces a state. The idea of just sitting felt like a prescription for a calmer, clearer version of myself. What I kept finding instead was the same mind — busy, self-prosecuting, quick to compare. The turning point was discovering that observation has texture: you can observe a pattern with kindness or with the same harshness the pattern itself carries. The instruction is: observe. But the quality of attention is what changes everything.
Signs it was working
A mantra surfaced during practice without being summoned — Je ne résiste pas. Je ne repousse pas. Je ne rumine pas. Je ne réagis pas. The cushion felt physically right for the first time — straight and relaxed, not one at the expense of the other. A sternum blockage met with breath, the way a spinal resistance is met on the mat. Tired and on the edge of dangerous driving — and the first move was gentle naming, not force. Less quick to anger when corrected by someone I love.
Personal journey thread
The arc begins in San Francisco in 1998 — Bikram Yoga, 26 postures, 40 degrees, 90 minutes. Not meditation in the classical sense, but the first time breath was the only instrument available and effort had to be let go rather than increased. Something about that registered. Four years later: Jon Kabat-Zinn's MBSR (Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction, 2002) — the secular framework that made sitting practice legible without requiring a tradition. Then the teachers arrived, in sequence and sometimes in parallel. Fabrice Midal's framing of loving-kindness as structurally necessary, not optional. Muriel Corradini's group sessions where the cushion became a space without self-pressure. Patricia Roux-Mérot's teaching on the fourth force — space — and the mantra that arrived on its own during a session with her material. Sam Harris's Waking Up as the bridge between the clinical and the contemplative. None of them said the same thing. All of them were pointing at the same interval. What took longest: realising that the practice had already been working in the moments I thought I was failing it.
Edition · May 2026
✦ Practice Notes
9 field notes · 2025–2026
A thought is just a thought — I don't need to capture or share them all.
The breakthrough: I have countless thoughts and I don't need to capture them all — I can let them go. For years I believed I had to capture everything and then rework it (an impossible equation), and that communicating meant sharing all of it, so I overshared. Living "I'm not my thoughts" changed that — I get to choose the few worth developing. Less capture, less oversharing, less paralysis. Held alongside Pema Chödrön's "throwing the rug": the moment I think I've mastered it, I've lost it. No antidote, only practice.
Leave the complexity intact; it becomes workable and supportive, not an injunction.
Meditation
The sternum block again: met it with the breath the way I unroll my spine on the mat, and stayed with it.
Gyrotonic✦Meditation
Solo sitting with difficult emotions: stayed in contact without narrating.
Meditation
Turn the four questions into affirmations — welcome fear instead of fighting it.
A lovely 15-minute solo sit. Turning the four questions into affirmations helped me not feel afraid or guilty, and to welcome life and connection. The core emotion was a pulsation tied to fear — of not having planned time and money, which reinforce each other. It also surfaced a little defensiveness around "les deux embrassements."
Meditation
The inner prosecutor is one pattern — turn the lamp of attention on it, with kindness.
Seeing the "prosecutor / judge / accuser" as one repeating mechanism across meditation and daily life. Driving tired with Elie, I caught it early and responded gently ("I'm tired — let's be more present") — safer, and far less anger when my inattention was pointed out. The move isn't to fight it or prove it wrong, but to turn attention toward it with presence and kindness.
Meditation
Breath as a decompression pathway
Sitting still, I felt the same compressed sensation in the chest that shows up when curling down/up from/to a bridge position. In movement I use decompression cues to engage with these areas of my body in the most gentle way possible. For the first time, sitting still in meditation my breath — specifically the exhale — allowed me to experience the same opening without any physical prompt. Two different practices, same opening experience.
Foundation Training✦Meditation
Straight and relaxed at once — breath, adductors and pelvic floor as one system.
For the first time I could feel straight and relaxed at the same time, everything connected to gentle contractions in the pubic area — likely helped by the magic circle work. Diaphragm breathing linked to adductor contractions, which linked to lower abs and pelvic floor: one integrated system. I could also relax forward without compressing my back, and curl down further feeling safer and stronger.
Meditation
Meditation finally lands — zero in on one thing, practice with openness.
Two 15-minute sits that spilled into the rest of life: seeing I had to handle Mom's admin (and finances) before my own, sharper ideas at work, re-reading to grasp key principles (e.g. the 3 lords and the trap of needing to be right), more comfort with openness ("la 4ème force"), and a calmer night routine. The shift was zeroing in on a specific learning and practicing with more openness.
